Unitarian Universalists tend to love questions and questioning. We love wondering and trying to figure out life’s mysteries. Sort of like a puzzle to solve.
But what if mystery isn’t something to figure out? What if it’s something to be felt and listened to, but not solved? Being a community of mystery isn’t just about engaging life as a marvelous puzzle. It’s also about allowing ourselves to be spoken to by life and its wonders.
Mystery is funny this way. You can’t make it speak. Indeed, the more you pursue the answers to life’s mysteries; the more distant they can become. If we want mystery to speak, it seems we have to be willing to be caught off guard. UU humanist minister and poet, David Breeden, captures this beautifully when he writes,
I dug and dug
Deeper into the earth
Looking for blue heaven
On piles of dust rising
And fell into the sky
Slipping, and then falling into the sky. Is there a better way to describe our dance with mystery? Isn’t this what all the great mystics have been trying to tell us from the start…telling us that sitting at the heart of mystery is not the unknown, but is a kind of unity? We fall into mystery and it falls into us. Its voice whispers, “I am you and you are me.”
Mystery doesn’t put up barriers; it dissolves them into a sea of unknowing. Each of us, when faced the wonder and mystery of a sunset, the stars, a baby’s first cry or a lover’s wet kiss, have thought to ourselves, “Who I am does not end at the barrier of my skin.”
This month, let’s let ourselves fall in and open up, slip into the sky and let it slip into us. Let’s put down all the puzzling and the figuring out. As Mary Oliver instructs us in her poem, Mysteries Yes, let’s choose to keep some distance from anyone or anything that believes it has the answers. Instead, let’s choose to hang out with folks who say, “Look!” and laugh in astonishment, and bow their heads.” (Mysteries Yes ~ Mary Oliver)
Perhaps then we’ll notice that life isn’t simply trying to stump us with mysteries. Rather, life uses mystery to connect with us, one with all-that-is.
During this holiday season, may we each find moments during which we can dwell in mystery, and in so doing, to find our place in the oneness of everything.
One with you,
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These are difficult times. Expressions of racism and violent anger continue to target people of colour, immigrants, and gender non-conforming folks. Last Saturday’s shootings at the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh deeply affected our Jewish friends, as they again struggle with how dangerous it feels to be ‘publicly Jewish’. We must not forget their long history of exile and persecution on the basis of race and religion. And, while it is simply unacceptable in today’s world that any person be subject to hatred, the reality is that hatred is often front and center.
As is often said in social justice circles, ‘this is not news, this is family.’ Certainly this event is ‘family’ for us. Our neighbours…our ‘cousins in the house’*…the Beth Israel congregation…are suffering. Though the shootings happened far away, the generational impact of persecution, which often lies dormant, has been triggered in their bodies. They are wondering if they are safe. They are wondering if it could happen here. They are wondering who, or where, is next.
This is indeed a time for leaning in…leaning in to being allies, leaning in to showing up, leaning in to being a family of humanity. So many of you leaned in and showed up for the Peace Vigil on Monday night, standing in the cold, huddling with 200 other people intent on keeping one another warm and safe. All of us leaning in to the knowledge that we are in this together.
This month’s theme, a community that leans in, would have us consider exactly what it is that we choose to put our energies toward. What do we have a passion for? Where do we want to put our weight, or exert pressure, or focus our energies? To what will we give our strongest devotion?
This is a time that we are called to lean in to our principles. How about leaning into the belief that love is the only thing that can overcome hatred? How about leaning into the power of community to defeat isolation and offer needed support? How about leaning into the inherent worth of each person by fighting for those who have been beaten down by systems of injustice?
You can read more about leaning in in this month’s theme packet. Join me as we consider how the sometimes uncomfortable practice of leaning in and living our values and principles with intention might be just the ticket to overcoming hatred. I’m convinced that ‘leaning in’ to love will help us to remember that we are held in a ‘network of mutuality’**…a family…all in this together.
With love and care,
* Marion Little, the emcee at the Peace Vigil, called the Jews and the Unitarians ‘cousins in the house.’
**a term used by Martin Luther King, Jr.
Here’s a quote we would do well to remember this month. The author is unknown, but their words are a gift: “What will mess you up most in life is the picture in your head of how it is supposed to be.”
This is not how the topic of vision is usually handled. We’re encouraged to “stay true to your vision.” We’re told, “Without vison, the people perish.” And let’s be clear: all of that is true. A clear vision gives us direction and hope.
But, all that holding fast is also risky. In short, no vision is perfect. Every vision distorts even as it clarifies. On top of that, life changes. Some doors close, new ones open.
And as Unitarian Universalists, we also know that one vision isn’t enough. As clear as our perspectives may be, we know that none is complete. To see the entire view, we need everyone’s vantage point.
At September’s PRIDE service, I used “Nanette”, Hannah Gadsby’s performance video, to illustrate the importance of hearing one another’s stories. Though I didn’t mention this, Gadsby points out example after example of Picasso’s profound misogyny. She weaves an ironic thread about how the man credited with inventing Cubism, a new form of perspective from which all angles are considered meaningful, utterly failed to consider the female gaze.
This is a poignant example of how, with myopic vision, the important views and visions of others are excluded. As Unitarian Universalists, our vision is one of an inclusive world in which all are heard. And so, along with asking what we want to see made real, we must ask others the same question. We don’t have to see things from others’ points of view; we get to see things from others’ points of view! It’s also an invitation to see the world anew!
So maybe that’s the most important vision this month. Not that of a stern-faced people sticking to their single vision through thick and thin. But that of a playful people exchanging visions and helping each other encounter new and larger worlds. I love that notion! What about you?
With you on the journey!
Here we are, entering another year as companions on the spiritual journey. Our theme for this month is “emergence”, and I can imagine myself as a seed in the ground, pushing up through the ground, and then bursting into flower…or of being wrapped in a cocoon, germinating, waiting to open to fullness. Emergence conjures up images of surprising new life, of entering the light after being in darkness, or of standing in awe as something unexpected unfolds before our eyes.
This kind of emergence was foremost in our minds as we chose this as our September theme. It seemed the perfect way to enter a new church year…a willingness to be drawn into new growth and to envision more dynamic ways of being. Emergence begs these questions…what is unfolding? what is pulsing toward birth? what doors are we being called to open?
But surprisingly…something new emerged as I explored this theme. In philosophy, in science, and in systems theory, emergence is used to describe novel patterns and formations which could not have been predicted, but which come into being by virtue of the interactions between diverse entities in any system. Emergence is order spontaneously arising out of chaos. Emergence refers to realities that are more than the sum of the parts.
Emergence is what we can do together that we could never have done alone. Emergence is what happens when we gather in community, and allow each person their own uniqueness and autonomy, even as we strive for wholeness and coherence. Emergence is what happens when we continue to evolve…as individuals and as a group…always in process. Emergence happens when we interact authentically and openly with one another, without holding too tightly to rules and assumptions. And the beauty is…we can’t know what marvelous things will happen!
Beloved community is a whole that has life-giving properties that each person does not have alone. Beloved community comes about because of the interactions and connections between and among us.
Your one wild and precious contribution is necessary for our emergence. Come, be a part of the possibility!
See you very soon!
At John Morgan’s memorial service on June 29, words were shared from Rev. Shawn Newton (Toronto First) telling of how John had taught him, in deeds, of the fond bonds formed between a minister and the congregation.
As I head away from you for summer holidays and study leave, I feel rather emotional. This has been a full year. You have supported me through a difficult time, and you have celebrated my ministry, and you have ‘shown up’ for this community in innumerable ways.
My wish for you is that you have a safe and happy summer, enjoying as fully as possible this beautiful world. May you feel the embrace of loved ones, the thrill of new experiences, and by rocked by the gently spinning of the planet. All shall be well, my friends, for you are here, and being here now is what we have, and we are here together.
— Rev. Julie